Tales of a Newlywed Couple

Happy birthday to me, happy birthday, happy birthday, happy birthday to me… how old I am?

Well, I’m singing a birthday song to my self coz I just turned 28 yesterday (a year older but still looking very young…hehehe, walay mo-kontra kay bday nako). It was a special occasion and I’m just so happy because my family and friends remembered my birthday. They sent birthday greetings through text, email, friendster message and phone calls. I just felt the faithfulness and blessing of our dear Lord to me. I am thankful coz I reached this age.

Me… the beautiful birthday girl (“,)

One of the blessings that God gave me is my wonderful hubby (I call him “emo-dabs”).

Sweet namin no?

In our family (CUA side), we have many February babies (born in this special month): Job (12), me (22), Uncle Boy (23) and Sofia Cloie (25). Alam nyo na lahi namin…hehehe.

Feb-babies

I was happy too coz my in-laws (from Gensan) we’re able to celebrate my birthday with us. Tatay David gave ice cream as a gift for me… thanks Tatay!

L-R: Tatay David, Nanay Phoebe, Job, Chloe, Bevs (sa likod), Mama Nita and Me

These were my visitors during my birthday celebration yesterday:

First Batch of Eaters (L-R: Pastor Dante, Tasing, Dexter, Jam, Ces, Dabs and Me)

Second Batch of Eaters (L-R: Che, Auntie Jane, Cathy, Mama Nita ug ang mga wala nakita sa pic; Auntie Arlene, Inday and Jen)

UP Friends (L-R: Tatta, Ness, Jam, Me, Ces, Riza and Nice)–Third Batch of Eaters

Last Batch of Eaters (L-R: Jen, Jam, Cathy, Che and James)

You see, non-stop gyud ang kaon miski gamay lng ang handa…hehehe. I’m very grateful to Auntie Jane, Cathy, Jen, Che and Mark for preparing and cooking the food. Salamat gyud… lami kaayo ang kare-kare, bihon, buttered chicken, inihaw na bangus, chopsuey and cake.

To all who prayed for me, a million thanks. Thank you God for my 28th birthday!

Yesterday was indeed a special day because my hubby celebrated his 30th birthday (tigulang na gyud akong bana pro looking young pa rin nman sya…hehe). We had a simple celebration, just a dinner with my family here in Davao and some cousins. We ate at around 8pm and we had sinigang na baboy, Chikai’s special giniling na baboy (puro na gyud ni baboy…hehe), cake and ice cream.

Dabs arrival with our Yamaha Sniper…galing pa sya Gensan kya gabi na dumating (humabol sa bday celebration nya)

The birthday boy (o di ba di mukhang 30 yrs old, pra lng 3 yrs old..hehe)

Ang sinigang na baboy (recipe courtesy of Tisha from Dubai)

Ang giniling na baboy (mao na ang ginapanghambog ni Chikai na luto nya…in fairness lami sad)

Ang mga dagkog kaon…hehe (L-R: James, Che, Me, Jam, Jen and Cathy)

Mga addict sa camera (Jam & Sofia)

Labi and Dabs at si baby inside my womb

To all who prayed and sent their birthday greetings to Dabs, THANK YOU so much. Special thanks goes to Chikai who accompanied me sa NCCC Mall to buy some grocery and the cake plus ang gift nyo ni James na ice cream. Salamat din sa pagluto ng food kasama sina Papa Willy, Cathy and Jen (matud pa ni Dabs murag ako daw nag-birthday ug pang-awards night daw akong speech diri na part…hehe).

Sa aking pinakamamahal na Dabs, wish ko na tumaba ka na (maging healthy lagi) at sana i-grant ni Lord ang mga desires ng heart mo. Ako at si baby ay laging nandito for you. Be happy always and we love you to the highest level. Happy 30th birthday again. Muwah!

Is your marriage contract-based or covenant-based? This was the question of the pastor to the couples who attended the church service in Holy ground this morning. Sayang nga lng coz hubby was not with me today, he went to Gensan yesterday for some works to do there.

Anyway, I really loved the message of the pastor to us. I felt God spoke to me directly about marriage and I believed that there were many hearts in that worship celebration that were touched by the powerful message of the Lord especially those of the husbands and wives.

Going back to the question above, let me share to you about the difference of marriage as a contract and marriage as a covenant. Look at the contrasting statements:

As a contract / As a covenant
1. You better do it! / 1. How may I serve you?
2. What to I get? / 2. What can I give?
3. What will it take? / 3. Whatever it takes.
4. It’s not my responsibility. / 4. I’m happy to do it.
5. It’s not my fault. / 5. I accept responsibility.
6. I’ll meet you halfway. / 6. I’ll give my 100%.
7. I’ll be faithful for now. / 7. I’ll be faithful forever.
8. I am suspicious. / 8. I am trusting.
9. I have to. / 9. I want to.
10. It’s a deal. / 10. It’s a relationship.

Can you see the big difference between contract and covenant? I agree with pastor that marriage should be a covenant between you and your spouse and most importantly between the two of you and God (of which marriage is God’s idea in the first place).

Covenant marriage is about love and loyalty and it talks about as long as you and your partner shall both live (walang expiration ika nga).

Ito nga pla ang covenant partner ko for life… my macho-gwapitong Dabs.

I was quite sad last week because I’m leaving Gensan for a while. Job and I decided that I’ll give birth in Davao because of my difficult condition (high risk pregnancy). We were also advised by my OB and some doctors to deliver our first born in Davao because hospitals here in Davao are better equipped in case complications will arise for me and the baby (God forbid).

And so last Monday, hubby and I traveled to Davao bringing most of my things. I’ll be staying here for several months (hopefully I’ll give birth end of June…we are praying that we will not have a premature baby). It was indeed a hard decision for us because Job and I will be separated. of course he will be visiting me here every now and then but still it’s different if you’re together everyday. As a wife, I find it hard to think that I cannot personally take care of my husband and manage our house in Gensan.

But we are doing all these sacrifices for our dear baby. Right now, we are very excited and looking forward to the day that we will finally be holding our precious one. We love you baby!

Kagabi, enjoy ako sa napanood ko na episode ng Maalaala Mo Kaya. Since LOVE month na (February), about puppy love ang kuwento nila. Bigla ko tuloy naalala yung experience ko ng first time akong niligawan noong 12 years old pa lng ako (naka-relate ba, wag kang magalit Dabs ha….hehehe). Tama yung mga binitawang linya ng bidang batang babae, para daw syang nakukuryente, natutulala, di mapakali, nalilito at lalo na di maintindihan ang nararamdaman. Hay naku, ganito rin ksi ang mga naranasan ko.

Puppy love? Syempre, hindi ito ang true love. Pero ang sarap balik-balikan ang mga panahon kung kailan mo ito naranasan. Bilang bahagi ng iyong kabataan, matatawa ka na lng. I remember, nasa bukid kmi ng lola ko noon. Kasama ko mga pinsan kong nagbabakasyon doon. Nagkayayaan na maligo sa ilog kasama ang mga kaibigan namin doon. Noong pauwi na kmi galing sa paliligo, nagtaka na lng ako ksi biglang nawala mga pinsan ko at naiwan yung isang kaibigan namin (itago natin sya sa pangalang Mickey Mouse…hehehe). Yun pala, kinausap nya mga pinsan ko na sabayan ako pauwi ksi manliligaw sya.

Noong magtapat sya, talagang kinabahan ako. Nangatog ang mga tuhod ko at prang di na ako makalakad (mga 2 kilometers pa naman ang lalakbayin pa namin pauwi ng bahay). Feeling ko hihimatayin ako ng mga oras na yun, di ko alam ano ang isasagot (syempre di ko sya sinagot no, dalagang Pilipina yata ako kya after one year pa…hehehe). Nakakaloka pla talaga!

Well, sana naka-relate din kayo. Wala lng, I just enjoyed the show last night kya nai-share ko ito. Opps, you might wonder kung nagtagal kmi ni Mickey Mouse…hehehe. We lasted for three years. Sinagot ko sya May 17, 1993 at nakipag-break ako May 17, 1996. Once a year lng nman kmi magkita, every summer vacation lng. Nakakatawa nga ksi prang di kmi mag-boyfriend noon… no holding hands, no kiss and no talks (cge lng mi ligo ug sapa ug dula ug patintero…hehehe).

Happy LOVE month sa lahat!